тем более кто такая Боня, неизвестно

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Porque el alma prende fuego cuando deja de amar.

Бывает. Знаю девушек в реале, у которых подобный дейтинг, один козлистей другого. Девочки красивые, спортивные, ухоженные, универское образование, хорошая работа...А вот привлекают каких-то неадекватов, расстраиваются, но продолжают...

ваш двойник с другого форума.
Я тоже раньше антидейт читала, сейчас вспомнила. Ну очень похожа.

Лично я не в теме что у Вас с Канадкой, но неприятно, когда читаешь вроде бы обычную тему, а тут такие слова. Как на мусорке побывал, сорри.
Для личных вещей есть личка, зачем непосвященным людям читать чуть ли не маты?

Там полная клиника, мне кажется. Одна фраза про «моя навсегда..» чего стоит .
Ёжик, ты же умница, почитай:

Recovery from an abusive relationship can be very similar to withdrawal from drug addiction due to the biochemical bonds we may develop with our toxic ex-partners.

Understanding WHY we are addicted lets us recognize that our addiction is not about the merits of the narcissist, but rather the nature and severity of the trauma we’ve experienced. It enables us to detach and move forward with powerful knowledge that can propel us toward healthier relationships.

1. Oxytocin is why you love them even when they abuse you.

Oxytocin — AKA the “cuddle” or “love hormone” — is released during touching, orgasm and sexual intercourse, and promotes attachment and trust. It's the same hormone released by the hypothalamus to bond a mother and child. During “lovebombing” and "mirroring" in the idealization phases with abusive partners, it’s likely that our bond to them is quite strong as a result of this hormone.
Many survivors reminisce about the electrifyin sexual chemistry they had with the narcissist — one they feel they're unable to achieve with future partners.
This chemistry exists because charming emotional predators like narcissists are able to mirror our deepest sexual and emotional desires, which leads to a strong sexual bond, and in turn, the release of oxytocin.
Meanwhile, the narcissist, who is typically devoid of empathy and does NOT form these types of close attachments, is able to move onto his or her next victim without much thought or remorse.
The addictive nature of oxytocin is also gendered, according to Susan Kuchinskas, author of the book, The Chemistry of Connection. Because estrogen promotes the effects of oxytocin bonding — whereas testosterone discourages it — makes it more difficult for females in any type of relationship to detach from the bond as quickly as men.

2. Dopamine makes you continue believing them when they say they'll "change".

The same neurotransmitter that is responsible for cocaine addiction is also responsible for addiction to dangerous romantic partners. According to Harvard Health, both drugs and intense, pleasurable memories trigger dopamine and create reward circuits in the brain — essentially telling the brain to “do it again.”
Do you remember recalling the pleasurable, beautiful first moments with your narcissistic partner — even after you'd broken up? The romantic dates, the sweet compliments and praise, the incredible sex? That's the dopamine talking.
The salience theory of dopamine suggests that our brain releases dopamine not just for pleasurable events, but to important ones that are linked to survival. As Samantha Smithstein, Psy.D, puts it, “Dopamine is not just a messenger that dictates what feels good; it is also tells the brain what is important and what to pay attention to in order to survive. And the more powerful the experience is, the stronger the message is to the brain to repeat the activity for survival.”
Studies show that dopamine flows more readily when the rewards are given out on unpredictable schedule rather than predictably after conditioned cues. So the random sweet nothings whispered to us after an incident of emotional abuse, the apologies, the pity ploys, the rare displays of tenderness during the devaluation phase, right before another incident of abuse ... those actually help CEMENT this type of reward circuit rather than deter it.
Combine this with powerful experiences of abuse which alert our brain to “pay attention” as well as pleasurable memories we recollect over and over again, and we’ve got ourselves a biochemical bond from hell.

3. Cortisol, Adrenaline and Norepinephrine make you an adrenaline junkie.

Cortisol is a stress hormone, and boy, does it get released during the traumatic highs and lows of an abusive relationship. It's released by the adrenal glands in response to fear as part of the “fight or flight” mechanism. Since we're unlikely to have a physical outlet of release when cortisol is triggered during cycles of emotional abuse, this often traps the stress within our bodies instead.
As we ruminate over incidents of abuse, increased levels of cortisol lead to more and more health problems. Christopher Bergland suggests numerous ways to counteract the effects of this hormone, which include physical activity, mindfulness, meditation, laughter, music and social connectivity.
Adrenaline and norepinephrine also prepare our body for the flight or fight response, and are also culprits in biochemical reactions to our abusers.
Adrenaline promotes an antidepressant effect, triggering fear and anxiety, which then releases dopamine — this can cause us to become “adrenaline junkies,” addicted to the rush of vacillating between bonding and betrayal.
Withdrawal from that “rush” can be incredibly painful.

4. You can become bonded to your abuser through trauma.

All of these jolts of fear and anxiety in the face of danger can reenact past traumas and create trauma bonding. Trauma bonding occurs after intense, emotional experiences with our abusers and tethers us to them, creating subconscious patterns of attachment that are very difficult to detach from.
It is part of the phenomenon known as Stockholm Syndrome, in which victims of hostage become attached to their perpetrators and even defend their captors.
Although survivors of narcissistic abuse come from many different backgrounds and anyone can be a victim of narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding is even more significant for those who grow up in violent or emotionally abusive homes, and/or have had a narcissistic parent in addition to their most recent experiences with trauma and abuse.

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Хлопала, хлопаю и буду хлопать...

Пиония, патока моя, ну ставят на игнор. Зачем нравоучения

Я помню, что Канадка упоминала дочь, мне это тоже не понравилось, писала, что нельзя детей упоминать в каких-то разборках.
Дети - это святое.
1308 по мне тоже пару раз проехалась. Но мне пофиг, спасибо, что не матом.

Не, ну тебя я люблю, за что матом.

Мне вообще баны непонятны. Ну забанят человека, прийдет под другим ником, если захочет.
Кнопки жалоб и игнора даже не знаю где, к счастью.

Ну даже если допустить что это канадка. Я не пойму зачем вы сюда какой то левый сайт вынесли. Кто его сюда приплел и зачем?
А если это канадка то конечно стоит посочувствовать что такое овно к ее берегу плывет нон стоп. Она внешне очень интересная. Значит надо к психологу или каучу. Или еще у кому. Какой то сбой в программе. Может из детства. Эхххх
Жалко всех!!!

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На небе Бог, на земле Россия!
Россия Матушка!

Я вообще поняла, что Вы назвали Канадку убогой, а она ответила, что про убогую промолчит, иначе Вы начнете плач Ярославны (жаловаться).
Не поняла где угроза.

так где там что на антидейте читать?

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Все в наших руках, поэтому их нельзя опускать.

Да, это тринадцатьнольвосемь начала. А теперь пытается стрелки перевести.

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Кто не курит и не пьёт, тот здоровеньким помрет.

Если говно плывет постоянно к одному берегу- значит проблема в береге и там надо что то менять. Если дева постоянно собирает мусор- значит у нее есть в этом потребность. Ну ладно, один раз можно ошибиться. Молодость, гормоны, шкура горит. Но если постоянно один и тот же контингент, то это уже диагноз.

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Внемание! Даное сообщение не рикомендуется к прочтению лицом не достигших 18-ти лет и людям с ниустойчивой психикой.