На что будет смотреть суд при принятии решения, кому отдать кастоди.

The court looks very closely at Joint Custody agreements. The most important factor to Joint Legal Custody to Shared Physical Custody is the ability of the parents to talk about and reach joint decisions that affect the child's welfare. If you are constantly fighting over what religion or what school, the court may strike down your agreement.

Other factors include:

- willingness to share custody;
- fitness;
- child's relationships with parents;
- child's preference;
- ability to stabilize child's school and social life;
- closeness to parent's homes (primarily a factor during the school year) ;
- employment considerations (e.g. long hours, extensive travel, etc.);
- age and number of children;
- financial status;
- benefit to parent.

Additionally, the sincerity of the parties involved is important. The court will want to make sure that joint custody isn't being traded for concessions on other points. Another consideration is whether the grant of joint custody will affect any assistance programs. Currently, Welfare and Medical Assistance are affected based on the award of Joint Legal Custody. Be sure to check with your contact at any social service agencies before entering into an agreement or you may be jeopardizing your benefits. This list is not meant to be complete and the court will hear anything that they believe to be relevant.

Решение суд будет принимать in child's best interests.
Что понимают под child's best interests и как будут определять, кто из родителей болше подходит под это определение.

The Best Interests of the Child Standard
Regardless of any agreement you may have reached, the courts will look at custody to determine the "best interests" of the child. They look at several factors. It is important to remember that no one factor is more important than any other. The following list is some, but not all, of the factors, that courts will consider.

- Primary Care Giver - Who is the person who takes care of the child? Who feeds the child, shops for their clothes, gets them up for school, bathes them, and arranges day care? Who does the child turn to when they get hurt?
Fitness - What are the psychological and physical capacities of the parties seeking custody? The court may also consider evidence of abuse by a party against the other parent, the party's spouse, or any child residing within the party's household (including another child).

- Character and Reputation
- Agreements - Is there a custody agreement already in place?
- Ability to Maintain Family Relationships - Who will be able to keep the child's family most intact? Who is going to let the child speak with their ex-mother-in-law, for example? Who will not penalize the child for any adverse action on the part of the other parent.
- Child Preference - The decision of the court may be considered reversible error if they won't hear the child's preference. However, the court has the discretion to interview the child out of the parents' presence. A child as young as 5 or 6 years of age may be heard. Though it is rare, the court will hear from a child under 7 years.The child's ability to tell the truth from fiction and maturity will be the guideline for whether a child may be heard. A child of 10 or 12 years of age is certainly entitled to have their opinions heard and given weight in legal proceedings about custody. Additionally, the court has the power to appoint an attorney for the child in contested cases.

- Material Opportunity - Which parent has the financial resources to give the child more things?

- Age, Health and Gender of Child

- Residences of Parents and Opportunity for Visitation - How close do the parents live to each other? How close do they live to members of the child's extended family? Which parent lives closest to the child's school and social circle?
Length of Separation- how long has the parent been separated from the child?

- Any Prior Abandonment or Surrender of Custody - Is there a history of one parent walking out and leaving the other parent to cope with the child and the home? Which parent left when you last broke up?

- Religious Views - These will be important in the court's decision only if you can show that religious views affect the physical or emotional well being of the child.

- Disability - In 2009, The General Assembly passed a bill making explicitly limiting the relevance of a party's disability in a custody proceeding to the extent that the disability affects the best interest of the child. HB 689. (Effective 10/01/09)

What if we disagree about custody and visitation?
If you and your spouse are having trouble reaching an agreement, you should consider mediation. A mediator specializes in helping people reach an agreement that is fair and will last. The sessions are confidential. A mediator's role may be limited to custody. You may also ask to cover other issues such as marital property if you choose. Mediation is not appropriate in cases where there is a genuine issue of physical or sexual abuse of the child or one of the parties. It is also important to get a legal advisor for this process. The mediator's role is not to take sides, but to bring the two sides together. Additionally, if the mediator is not an attorney, he/she may be unaware of some specific legal issues.

Court Ordered Mediation
The court has the power to order you and the other side to go to mediation. This is true whether

your case is just starting;
you are requesting modification of an existing order; or
or you are filing a contempt action.
You should be aware, however, that if mediation is ordered by the court at the initial proceeding it will most likely prolong the legal process by stopping all other actions until the mediation is complete. The court will initially order two sessions. However, a mediator recommend that the court order 2 additional sessions. You may decide to continue the mediation without the court ordering it. The court also has the power to order one or both parties pay for the mediation.

Custody Agreements: What if we agree about custody and visitation?
If you and the other parent have already come to a fair agreement on the custody and visitation issue, you may want to write your own "stipulation" and consent order. A "stipulation" is a statement describing the agreement that you have reached. A consent order is a draft for the judge to sign if s/he agrees to accept your agreement. this means that the court can enforce the agreement in the future.

If you choose to go this route, you and the other parent should be as specific as you can to avoid future conflicts. You should ask yourself, who has legal custody? Which holiday does the child spend with you? What time and where may the other parent pick the child up? What time should the child be returned home? What is the procedure to follow if either of you are running late and won't be there on time? How much notice should you be given if they are planning a vacation? How far away may the other spouse move? What you might think you can figure out as you go along could actually blow up into a full scale war later. The Stipulations should state everything that you have agreed upon. You should not rely on any oral promises. If you both agreed on it, write it down (no matter how trivial it may seem now). Your agreement should be included with your Complaint for Custody (DR 4), Complaint for Visitation (DR 5) or Complaint for Divorce (DR 20 or 21). Additionally, you should be sure to read this full section before proceeding in order to avoid having your stipulation and consent order ignored by the court or giving away rights of which you were unaware.

Overview to Visitation
Visitation is the part of the court order that defines when, how and where the non-custodial parent may have contact with the child. Visitation is limited by the fact that legal custody belongs to the other parent. This means that your visitation does not give you the authority to conflict with the long range decisions and policies of the parent with legal custody. For example, if the parent with legal custody has decided to raise the child in the Jewish tradition, the parent with visitation rights may not take the child to be baptized in a Catholic church.

There are no reported cases of a court honoring complete denial of visitation for a parent. Even in cases of abuse, the only reported cases have upheld supervised visitation. Supervised visitation is when the parent is only allowed to visit with the child in the company of another person. This person is usually a friend or relative that the two parents agree will be allowed to act as a chaperon. Supervised visitation often calls for a restriction of visitation to a particular location and time.

Who can be awarded visitation? Obviously a biological parent can be awarded visitation. Additionally, grandparents (even when the parents weren't married or are not currently divorced) and step-parents may be awarded visitation rights. While there are no reported cases of brothers or sisters being given visitation, a strong argument could be made that it would be in the best interest of the child.


When can visitation be denied? The court has the power to deny visitation. Normally the court will only stop visitation for a certain time or until a certain task is performed. For example, the court has previously stayed visitation until the parent met their financial obligation. If your spouse should deny you court ordered visitation, you first file for a modification of visitation for a more definite schedule, before filing a Contempt Action. (DR.3). Many parents feel they have the right to stop paying child support, but they are wrong. Withholding of child support will only get you in trouble and possibly arrested.

Long distance solutions: Technology offers some innovative and creative ways for parents separated from their children to connect. "Virtual" visitation is coming to be recognized by the courts as a potentially important way to supplement in-person visits.

What if you fear for your child's safety or just do not want to see the other parent?
Supervised visitation protects the safety of the child and centers are available throughout the states.

Посмотрите, вот нашла схему абьюза.. возможно, кому - то пригодится и станет ясна ситуация
это циклический процесс, который надо сразу пресекать
потому что потом все повторяется с новыми (ужасными) подробностями

Совершено верно,как -то упоминала в темке для девочки,что это всегда замкнутый круг,и пока одна из сторон не оборвет,так и будет идти по кругу.Часто обрывают криминалом,увы. И со стороны женщины и с мужской тоже,т.к. не оставили во время точку.И что интересно,требуется приложить массу усилий убедить женщину на своевременное окончание отношений,как инициатора.По крайней мере в наших странах пост-Сов-го простр-ва.
Спасибо,что выложили!

Девочки, вот свежая информация - возможно, кому- то понадобиться!

Украина 7 июля подписала Конвенцию о международном взыскании алиментов на детей и других формах семейного содержания. На сегодня, кроме Украины, конвенцию уже подписали Норвегия, США и Буркина Фасо.

Иными словами, американские алименты теперь действительны в Украине?!

девченки!!!!
если кто то живет в MN если ныжна инфо pri abuse что и кyда поити с гринкои и ТП пишите подскажy тк через все ето yже прошла, бyды рада помоч'

Ищу на тему Child Protective Serives для Песочницы, наткнулась на полезный источник:

Learn and Prepare for Child Custody Evaluation
http://www.childcustodycoach.com/730eval.html

А.что.делать.если.бывшая.жина.недает.нам.жытья.и.постоянно.оскарбляет.меня.ето.считается.абьюзом?

Старая тема про помощь при абъюзе, чтобы в копилке не искать

viewtopic.php?f=20&t=15735

Девы, помогите советом...
Муж сочинил обвинение в том, что я "пришла домой нетрезвой, угрожала убить, бегала за ним по дому, поймала егои на несла несколько ударов по лицу". На этом основании он вызвал полицию, на меня надели наручники и увезли в участок. Друзья выкупили, провела остаток ночи у них. На следующий день в сопровождении полиции поехала домой за вещами. Гаражи были открыты, муж - дома, но увидев полицию, заблокировался в доме и не открыл дверь. Пришлось вызывать Locksmith, на что ушло полтора часа. В итоге дверь вскрыли, в доме никого не было. Взяла несколько вещей и машину. Живу у подруги. Муж подал петицию на Ex pate Order of Protection на целый год. В ближайшее время предстоят 3 суда - по вопросу проживания, криминала и развод. В браке с этим человеком состою один год, в октябре следующего года должна получить гринку на 10 лет. Сейчас все в подвешенном состоянии. За время брака неоднократно подвергалась унижениям, постоянной слежке, проверке всех телефонных звонков, переводу на английский всей моей переписки, отрицательному отношению к какому либо общению с русскими. Такое впечатление, что этому человеку нужна была женщина "три в одном" - уборка, стирка, готовка, секс - все за проживание в его доме, т.е. бесплатно. Совместных детей нет - мы уже "взрослые" -мне 45, ему 55.
Вопросы: что мне грозит? Куда обратиться? Как лучше поступить?

Вы бы открыли отдельный топик... девочки в эту тему редко заходят, судя по всему...
сочувствую Вам, но ничего не смогу подсказать - сама пока не знаю ничего

Хороший сайт от Dove 777, законы и помощь при абьюзе:

http://www.womenslaw.org/

Девушки!
В затруднительной фин. ситуации совет - просто садитесь на телефон, со справочником, и тупо обзванивайте все церкви в эрии. Очень охотно помогают, если есть свободные ср-ва.